Trauma: Response and Recovery
Trauma: Response & Recovery
By: Paige Martin
Trauma can be defined as a “deeply distressing or disturbing experience.” Sometimes people learn trauma responses as a means of surviving their childhood, abusive relationships or severe trauma. There are four types of trauma responses that are recognized by the mental health community: fight, flight, freeze and fawn. Each of the responses has a healthy and unhealthy ways of showing up. Understanding each type of trauma response can help you understand your behavior and change behavioral patterns and healing. Here’s a breakdown of the four trauma responses…
- Fight Response
- Self-preservation no matter who you hurt in the process
- Positive Responses: establish firm boundaries, be assertive, find courage, become a strong leader, and protect yourself
- Negative Responses: Controlling behaviors, narcissistic tendencies, bullying, conduct disorder, demanding perfection from others, and feelings of entitlement.
- Flight Response
- If the threat seems impossible to take down in a fight, people react by leaving the situation entirely
- Positive Responses: disengage from harmful conversations, leave unhealthy relationships, remove yourself from physically dangerous situations, properly assess danger
- Negative Responses: obsessive or compulsive tendencies, needing to stay busy constantly, panic and fear, perfectionism, workaholic tendencies, inability to sit still
- Freeze Response
- Instead of trying to fight the danger or flee, someone pauses.
- Positive Responses: mindfulness, awareness, full presence in the moment
- Negative Responses: dissociation, isolation, zoning out, brain fog, difficulty making decisions or taking actions, perceived laziness, fear of trying new things
- Fawn Response
- People who spend a lot of time around toxic people learn to go above and beyond to make the toxic person happy
- Positive Responses: compassion for others, compromise, active listening, fairness
- Negative Responses: codependent relationships, someone to stay in a violent relationship, loss of self, people-pleasing to the point of destruction, little or no boundaries